One of the representative words attached to our mouths today is the word ‘hurt’. The word ‘hurt’, like words like joy and sadness, is a name for our emotions. That’s why when we use that word, we tend to decide that our emotions should feel that way as well. For example, just as the expression ‘I’m happy’ in a slightly comfortable situation makes my heart feel happy, similarly, if I express a bit of awkwardness as ‘I’m hurt’, the next thing I would be needing is some kind of treatment, and this may become something that would take long time to recover.
People visualise things in the past and store them in their memories. It is to name the feelings and interpretations, such as ‘the winter of that year that was warm’, and ‘the winter of that year that was exceptionally cold and lonely’, of the past events as images to store them in our memories. However, if you label something as ‘hurt’, the past will remain as a negative image.
But what we call ‘hurt’ are actually the hardships we have suffered in the past. Suffering, according to the Bible, is one of the ways God uses to shape us, and through patience during suffering, we become more like Jesus (James 1:2-4). Therefore, all the apostles tell us to rejoice in suffering. However, if we express hardship as a ‘hurt’, the story becomes completely different. It not only prevents us from being like Jesus, but it will be a bitter root that will remain unresolved inside us.
In the end, I wonder if the word ‘hurt’ makes modern people weak, helps us make excuses for the problems we are experiencing, and makes it especially difficult to estabilsh ‘relationships’ that is the most important in faith. The person who just made a small mistake becomes the person who would hurt me, and that’s how we would get hurt here and there, which would make it difficult to build a beautiful relationship.
So, why don’t we stay away from the word ‘hurt’ from now on? Instead of saying, ‘Those words hurt me.’, it would be much more helpful to say, ‘I am hearing all sorts of funny things.’, or ‘It sounds funny, but it does make me think’.
Note: It was written by editing and summarising the writings of Pastor Su Gwan Lee of Houston Seoul Church.
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One of the representative words attached to our mouths today is the word ‘hurt’. The word ‘hurt’, like words like joy and sadness, is a name for our emotions. That’s why when we use that word, we tend to decide that our emotions should feel that way as well. For example, just as the expression ‘I’m happy’ in a slightly comfortable situation makes my heart feel happy, similarly, if I express a bit of awkwardness as ‘I’m hurt’, the next thing I would be needing is some kind of treatment, and this may become something that would take long time to recover.
People visualise things in the past and store them in their memories. It is to name the feelings and interpretations, such as ‘the winter of that year that was warm’, and ‘the winter of that year that was exceptionally cold and lonely’, of the past events as images to store them in our memories. However, if you label something as ‘hurt’, the past will remain as a negative image.
But what we call ‘hurt’ are actually the hardships we have suffered in the past. Suffering, according to the Bible, is one of the ways God uses to shape us, and through patience during suffering, we become more like Jesus (James 1:2-4). Therefore, all the apostles tell us to rejoice in suffering. However, if we express hardship as a ‘hurt’, the story becomes completely different. It not only prevents us from being like Jesus, but it will be a bitter root that will remain unresolved inside us.
In the end, I wonder if the word ‘hurt’ makes modern people weak, helps us make excuses for the problems we are experiencing, and makes it especially difficult to estabilsh ‘relationships’ that is the most important in faith. The person who just made a small mistake becomes the person who would hurt me, and that’s how we would get hurt here and there, which would make it difficult to build a beautiful relationship.
So, why don’t we stay away from the word ‘hurt’ from now on? Instead of saying, ‘Those words hurt me.’, it would be much more helpful to say, ‘I am hearing all sorts of funny things.’, or ‘It sounds funny, but it does make me think’.
Note: It was written by editing and summarising the writings of Pastor Su Gwan Lee of Houston Seoul Church.