Special dawn prayer service: To live an unregrettable life (chapters 11-12)
Day 6
How to resolve conflicts (Ephesians 4:29-32)
Rocky is a superb movie based on boxing, and it stars Sylvester Stallone.
The movie shows boxers fighting in the ring, and they have great techniques and skills.
Fighting and conflicts are also unavoidable in relationships. And unfortunately there are too many people who don’t know how to resolve conflicts and live a living hell.
Like boxers in the ring, there are several ways we can resolve conflicts.
First is ‘leaning on the ropes’. It’s leaning back on the ropes and avoiding conflicts.
Second is ‘live or die’. The one with a louder voice wins, but the relationship is left broken.
Thirdly, ‘the towel thrower’. You throw in your towel or run away from the ring.
Fourth is ‘one-two punch’- throwing punches at each other and fighting.
Which type are you?
The best type of all is the fifth one- ‘a sparring partner.’ A sparring partner does not leave the ring or lean on the ropes. They know that the relationship is more important than the subject of the conflict. And they believe the process matters more than the outcome.
Our characters mature through conflicts. On the ring, players must wear a ‘mouthpiece’. This is so that they don’t bite each other or attack each other with verbal abuse as this can leave scars that stay long after the fight is over.
We must talk about our emotions without verbally abusing or criticising each other.
Conflicts help our relationships develop.
Reflection
1. What are the challenges in dealing with conflicts with others? Think of a recent conflict you had and analyse it. Which type am I? How can I resolve my conflict?
2. What is a relationship conflict I need to resolve?
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Day 6
How to resolve conflicts (Ephesians 4:29-32)
Rocky is a superb movie based on boxing, and it stars Sylvester Stallone.
The movie shows boxers fighting in the ring, and they have great techniques and skills.
Fighting and conflicts are also unavoidable in relationships. And unfortunately there are too many people who don’t know how to resolve conflicts and live a living hell.
Like boxers in the ring, there are several ways we can resolve conflicts.
First is ‘leaning on the ropes’. It’s leaning back on the ropes and avoiding conflicts.
Second is ‘live or die’. The one with a louder voice wins, but the relationship is left broken.
Thirdly, ‘the towel thrower’. You throw in your towel or run away from the ring.
Fourth is ‘one-two punch’- throwing punches at each other and fighting.
Which type are you?
The best type of all is the fifth one- ‘a sparring partner.’ A sparring partner does not leave the ring or lean on the ropes. They know that the relationship is more important than the subject of the conflict. And they believe the process matters more than the outcome.
Our characters mature through conflicts. On the ring, players must wear a ‘mouthpiece’. This is so that they don’t bite each other or attack each other with verbal abuse as this can leave scars that stay long after the fight is over.
We must talk about our emotions without verbally abusing or criticising each other.
Conflicts help our relationships develop.
Reflection
1. What are the challenges in dealing with conflicts with others? Think of a recent conflict you had and analyse it. Which type am I? How can I resolve my conflict?
2. What is a relationship conflict I need to resolve?